According to the Mayo Clinic Website, the PMS is:
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) has a wide variety of symptoms, including mood swings, tender breasts, food cravings, fatigue, irritability and depression. An estimated 3 of every 4 menstruating women experience some form of premenstrual syndrome. These problems tend to peak during your late 20s and early 30s. Symptoms tend to recur in a predictable pattern. Yet the physical and emotional changes you experience with premenstrual syndrome may be particularly intense in some months and only slightly noticeable in others. Still, you don't have to let these problems control your life. Treatments and lifestyle adjustments can help you reduce or manage the signs and symptoms of premenstrual syndrome.
According to the Mayo Clinic Website, the Symptoms are:
Tension or anxiety - Depressed mood - Crying spells - Mood swings and irritability or anger - Appetite changes and food cravings - Trouble falling asleep (insomnia) - Social withdrawal - Poor concentration
Joint or muscle pain - Headache - Fatigue - Weight gain related to fluid retention - Abdominal bloating - Breast tenderness - Acne flare-ups - Constipation or diarrhea
Although the list of potential signs and symptoms is long, most women with premenstrual syndrome experience only a few of these problems. For some women, the physical pain and emotional stress are severe enough to affect their daily routines and activities. Regardless of their severity, though, the signs and symptoms disappear, for most women, as the menstrual period begins.
But a few women with premenstrual syndrome have disabling symptoms every month. This form of PMS has its own designation — premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). PMDD is a severe form of premenstrual syndrome with signs and symptoms including severe depression, feelings of hopelessness, anger, anxiety, low self-esteem, difficulty concentrating, irritability and tension. A number of women with severe PMS may have an underlying psychiatric disorder. (www.mayoclinic.org)
As a 'rescued victim' of this PMS thing I decided to go deeper and deeper into this beast since many girlfriends a clients of mine are convinced that this kind of 'hormonal' disaster is giving really hard time and it would be great to stop it, one way or another. I am convinced that our body is the materialized form of our personality/souls system (according to which believes you developed in your life) and has ways to talk to us. Our mind is today obliged to perform 24/7 providing high standards of service and most of the time the body is neglected because there is no time for it. But the body is also a kind of library where our daily journal are stored, from the very beginning till this present moment. So how can we perform 24/7 with our mind, mainly occupied with outside 'matters', be in the perfect body temple possible and follow our emotions and purpose in life all in the same time? well you must really need a super woman in order to perform in such a way.
Maybe, I said maybe, this hormonal crap has a purpose, maybe this PMS thing is a strategy of our hormones to talk to us and to ask us a little more care and attention. Maybe, I said maybe, we do not really need to perform 24/7, maybe we can be 'good enough' and that is already what you really need in order to achieve what you want in life.
I am not having PMS tantrums for one year now, yes I can be sad, I can cry, I can also be mad, but I voice it in a way that serves me. How? I do Self Care every single day, I do Love Myself for 15' every single day (at least). Why does it work? I think it works because at least for 15' minutes I take care of my self in a deep way, I talk to myself and concentrate on my needs. If you start keeping a journal you will notice that the themes that cause you pain and anger during PMS are always the same, so every month there is something very wise in our life that is talking to us.
If you have physical manifestations well the Self Care is even more effective because you are physically providing nourishment to all your abdomen and you are also letting go all the tensions that are not serving you.
So this is what I do to cope and 'solve' (sometimes) my PMS scary moments - and save my marriage ;)
- When you know that you are going to have your menses write it down, big letters, big papers, and post it where you and your partner/friend can see it. It can be a nice, funny, beautiful message such as:
- When you have thoughts that are trigging you try to write them down in a journal (and compare it every month, if they are all the same it might be a dynamic that you might want to let go);
- Plan a Self Care Me Time, can be a tea with a friend, can be a treatment, can be whatever make you feel ok - VSteam if you are not getting pregnant or have contraindications is also very nice. Stay tuned next time will be talking about it!
- Eat proper food, some junk food is fine (80% good and 20% is up to you) but try to feed your body with 80% of good nutrients;
- Do not refer to yourself as a bad witch having bad hormones, this is ok, hormones are ok, you are ok, you just need to know how to deal with it, once you know how, than it is a peace of cake.
- Talk about it with your friends, there is nothing to be ashamed of, it is our body talking to us.
- Explain to your partner what is going on, if your partner is a man, they also have stuff going on, just another way to express it (mine likes to break ligaments when needs to be self oriented… tantrum is way more easy to cope with);
- Last but not list for today…. make fun of it, it is just life and life is weird and beautiful and very very comic!
If it is really bad, well you might want to call your doctor.
This is a tiny space where I can share some of my thoughts and experiences, enjoy!