During the Atmat self care workshop I was totally blown by this notion: women are born with all their eggs... so if you really think about that it means that we have been carried in our mother's womb, but also in our grandmother's one... In the Family Constellation practice the facilitator is trained to look up your lineage and it is so very important to see how your feminine root is related to you, and now you know why: you were carried both from your mother and your grandmother. And you are going to carry your children, if this is your path, but also your nephews... So when we come to talk about fertility we are not just talking about uterus, tubes, ovaries and hormones, we are talking about a general view that also involves our relationship with our life, work, partner and as we just mentioned our mother and grandmother (but also father and grandfathers).
The ATMAT approach for this peculiar and very important aspect of a woman life (weather you want to have kids or not) is holistic, in fact every aspect is taken into consideration.
If you desire to conceive a child consider that the egg that will be fertilized took 6 months to mature. So those 6 months have contributed to mould it. Now all your system needs to be properly fed, in order to allow your system to work in favor of a conception. We have 5 nourishing freeway that keep on feeding our body, the blood circulation (both blood vessels and arteries), the lymphatic circulation, the nervous system and the energy system that Mayan tradition call Chu’el, other traditions talks about Chi or Qi. The Atmat Treatmenthelps the 5 circulations to flow, reducing congestions that may have occurred. If you have had some injured, falling on your sacrum or other accidents that may have influenced your back and your womb, it could be that the uterus is not in his optimal position. In the following picture taken from www.patient.co.uk, you can find some notions about where the optimal position of the uterus should be:
The gentle yet effecting treatment applied allow to restore, to nurture and to create space to the organs and also to reduce congestions that might interfere with the optimal balance. If the tissues are well nourished and in an optimal position, than their inner talking with the brain will be optimal and so the answers (hormones). A good proper diet will also help very much, the most important thing is to consume organic food and to combine it in a various way, trying to give your body enough of water, vitamins, proteins, good carbs and fat. If you think your diet is in some way not balanced, you might consider to look for some more informations. A good nutrition is not good only for your conception, it will give you a healthy life style that can help you in various field of your life.
The emotional and mental aspect is also very important, sometimes our body is talking to us, with painful menses, for example, but in this society we now think that is normal, you just have to carry with you some pill and take one at the right moment. Of course this is a way you might feel comfortable with and so it is, but maybe this is not what you want, in that case you might discover that there are many other ways to deal and maybe you can also improve your well being. Our Sessions are made to allow you to enter in deep contact with yourself and to find your womb voice, power and strength, if you can imagine how much our uterus can transform within a month, with the menses, growing and shrinking to clean our body and mind (I believe), think about carrying a child, think about the magic of assisting a little cell becoming a child, feeding the creature, let her grow and than giving birth and produce the perfect nourishment for that child, constantly meeting her needs. This power every woman has in her system is very important also when we don’t want kids, also when we are in menopause, because this strengths it is not only related to a biological project, but every single project we want to give birth to, be it a job, a house, a marriage or again a child, if the system flows perfectly all our body-mind-soul world gain from it and can express the full potential.
If you decide to try an assisted fertility rout you can also benefit from this work, following all your doctor’s instructions and creating a deep connection with your body and womb, in my practice the most common impression was that both of the parents felt out from the picture, but we can help this feeling by a constant a loving connection to the womb and the child to be.
What is good for the mother is generally optimal also for the father, so if you are making a gorgeous smoothy with your favourite fruits and veggies, please make a double portion, the father to be can also have better outcomes from a better self care.
Create special moments with your partner, often (talking also about personal experience) when we are trying to conceive we become rigidly dependent on days, temperatures, schedules and so. The most important thing in your life, whatever you want to achieve, is joy. When something is joyful it becomes successful and, when something is successful it is very easy to jump in, don’t you think? Would you choose a pizzeria full of people with delicious slices on their plait or an empty one with bored waiters? The first one is full of oxytocin (Michel Odent would say ‘The Hormone of Love’) the second is quite depressing and you might get your pizza right away and it might also be delicious, but you are missing the fun of it. So do your best and than try to have fun, I know it took me 3 years to accept these words without jumping on my feet, but now I am happy to see the difference.
This is a tiny space where I can share some of my thoughts and experiences, enjoy!